Ho’oponopono is a good method for resolving problems in a relationship. It can be used to address problems in any kind of relationship be it between husband-wife, parent-child, between siblings, or any other kind of relationship. Ho’oponopono can also be used for resolving problems in relationships at work e.g. for problems with the boss or with other colleagues.
It is important for the person who is having problems in a relationship to understand that they may also be contributing to the problem in the relationship and also accept responsibility on their part for their contribution to the problem. A person does not react to how the partner is actually in a relationship. The person reacts to their perception of the other person with whom they are having a problem in a relationship.
Forgiveness is an important part of resolving problems in a relationship. It is good for the person who is having problems in a relationship to forgive the other person for whatever problems they have experienced in a relationship and also ask for forgiveness from the other person for whatever way they may have contributed to the problem in the relationship. By forgiving the other person, the person lets go of all of their negative emotions which they are holding within them.
The negative emotions of anger, resentment, etc. which a person holds within themselves as a result of the issues which they have experienced due to the problems in the relationship, will over a period lead to disease. Forgiving the other person for whatever problems they may have experienced in the relationship will help the person to let go of their negative emotions. Not forgiving the other person with whom you are having a problem in your relationship is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Ho’oponopono helps to release the negative emotions and also helps to resolve the negative perceptions which are causing troubles in the relationship. In this way, the relationship issues can be resolved.
The process of Ho’oponopono for relationship issues is as follows-
- Close your eyes and relax your body and mind.
- Now visualise the person with whom you are having a relationship issue in front of you.
- Visualise your Higher Self above you as a sphere of light.
- Request your Higher Self to send the pink light of Unconditional Love into you.
- See this pink light of Unconditional Love entering your body through your Crown Chakra at the top of your head and then passing down the central energy channel of your body to reach your Heart Chakra.
- From your Heart Chakra, project the pink light of Unconditional Love to the Heart Chakra of the other person standing in front of you.
- See the pink light of Unconditional Love filling the other person’s Heart Chakra.
- While projecting the pink light of Unconditional Love to the other person’s Heart Chakra, mentally repeat the following
I AM SORRY
PLEASE FORGIVE ME
I FORGIVE YOU
I LOVE YOU
Keep mentally repeating the above phrases for as long as possible until you feel that it is enough. Start initially repeating the phrases for about 9 times or so and then gradually increase it for as long as possible. Keep repeating this process for as long as necessary.